One of the reasons I chose to have my daughter at the Charleston Birth Place was because of the bad experience I had in the hospital while delivering my son. My husband is the most anti-doctor/hospital/medicine person I know so I’ve always had his support with choosing the birth options I wanted. Having a beautiful water birth (more on that story soon) and being able to go home without a hospital stay was amazing. Many people thought I was absolutely crazy to have a natural birth and I agree, it isn’t for everyone, but these are the reasons why I chose to have a natural childbirth.
My Reasons for a Natural Childbirth
1. My Traumatic Hospital Experience
I plan to share both of my individual birth stories later but just know that nothing about my delivery with TJ went according to my plan. Let me first start by saying I am in no way anti-hosptial. I do believe that there is a time and place for everything. Not everyone can safely have a birth center or home birth. Some women may even need to transfer to the hospital due to complications during delivery, and guess what? That’s okay. But for me, my hospital experience was not pleasant. It was not the worst of what could happen either, but things effect everyone in different ways.
I didn’t feel as though my opinion was being taken into account. Everything I expressed I wanted for my birth was ignored. When it came to the actual delivery, I felt that I was rushed and had procedures done that could have probably been avoided if even a few more minutes were given to me. All in all, I did not have a positive hospital experience and that was not something I wanted to go through again.
2. I wanted to be in control and aware of my delivery.
When I had TJ, I had an epidural and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Not feeling anything during delivery definitely has its perks. But after having him, and even while I was in labor, I was completely out of it. I couldn’t have a conversation after delivery without falling asleep. I couldn’t enjoy my baby the way I wanted to. Even my husband said I was not myself. Fast forward 2 years to Ella’s delivery. I was alert and aware of everything happening to and around me. I loved that the midwives allowed me to let them know how I was feeling. After having Ella, I could have coherent conversations and it was amazing to see how alert she was in those first few hours of birth.
3. I wanted to prove everyone wrong.
When I first found out I was pregnant with my son, I expressed interest in wanting to have a natural childbirth. My mother, who is a nurse, was adamantly against it. Several of my friends also thought I was nuts. I began to doubt that I would be able to handle having a natural birth myself. So I tried to have the best of both worlds and chose a midwife that practiced in an OB/GYN practice.
I loved my midwife, but she didn’t deliver me. And after having TJ, even she made the comment that maybe I wouldn’t have been able to handle full labor contractions. People tried to make me feel better after my delivery, but it didn’t. I felt like I let myself down and I didn’t like that feeling.
When I had Ella, completely unmedicated and the way I wanted to give birth all along, I couldn’t have felt more proud of myself. I knew I could do it and I was so happy that I did.
At the end of the day, the goal of childbirth is a healthy baby and mommy. Childbirth is a beautiful thing and no matter how you deliver, whether naturally, via c-section, or with medication, the end result is always the same.
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