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Why I Chose to Have a Natural Childbirth

Three of the reasons I chose to have a natural childbirth.

One of the reasons I chose to have my daughter at the Charleston Birth Place was because of the bad experience I had in the hospital while delivering my son.  My husband is the most anti-doctor/hospital/medicine person I know so I’ve always had his support with choosing the birth options I wanted.  Having a beautiful water birth (more on that story soon) and being able to go home without a hospital stay was amazing.  Many people thought I was absolutely crazy to have a natural birth and  I agree, it isn’t for everyone, but these are the reasons why I chose to have a natural childbirth.

My Reasons for a Natural Childbirth

1. My Traumatic Hospital Experience

I plan to share both of my individual birth stories later but just know that nothing about my delivery with TJ went according to my plan.  Let me first start by saying I am in no way anti-hosptial.  I do believe that there is a time and place for everything.  Not everyone can safely have a birth center or home birth.  Some women may even need to transfer to the hospital due to complications during delivery, and guess what? That’s okay.  But for me, my hospital experience was not pleasant.  It was not the worst of what could happen either, but things effect everyone in different ways.

I didn’t feel as though my opinion was being taken into account.  Everything I expressed I wanted for my birth was ignored.  When it came to the actual delivery, I felt that I was rushed and had procedures done that could have probably been avoided if even a few more minutes were given to me.  All in all, I did not have a positive hospital experience and that was not something I wanted to go through again.

2. I wanted to be in control and aware of my delivery.

When I had TJ, I had an epidural and I thoroughly enjoyed it.  Not feeling anything during delivery definitely has its perks.  But after having him, and even while I was in labor, I was completely out of it.  I couldn’t have a conversation after delivery without falling asleep.  I couldn’t enjoy my baby the way I wanted to.  Even my husband said I was not myself.  Fast forward 2 years to Ella’s delivery.  I was alert and aware of everything happening to and around me.  I loved that the midwives allowed me to let them know how I was feeling.  After having Ella, I could have coherent conversations and it was amazing to see how alert she was in those first few hours of birth.

3. I wanted to prove everyone wrong.

When I first found out I was pregnant with my son, I expressed interest in wanting to have a natural childbirth.  My mother, who is a nurse, was adamantly against it.  Several of my friends also thought I was nuts.  I began to doubt that I would be able to handle having a natural birth myself.  So I tried to have the best of both worlds and chose a midwife that practiced in an OB/GYN practice.

I loved my midwife, but she didn’t deliver me.  And after having TJ, even she made the comment that maybe I wouldn’t have been able to handle full labor contractions.  People tried to make me feel better after my delivery, but it didn’t.  I felt like I let myself down and I didn’t like that feeling.

Three of the reasons I chose to have a natural childbirth.

When I had Ella, completely unmedicated and the way I wanted to give birth all along, I couldn’t have felt more proud of myself.  I knew I could do it and I was so happy that I did.

Three of the reasons I chose to have a natural childbirth.

At the end of the day, the goal of childbirth is a healthy baby and mommy.  Childbirth is a beautiful thing and no matter how you deliver, whether naturally, via c-section, or with medication, the end result is always the same.

I’d love to hear your thoughts below!


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    November 16, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    Girl, go ahead with you bad self! I couldn’t do it even if you paid me lol. Good job mama.

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      November 16, 2016 at 9:32 pm

      Thanks! Honestly, it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. I say this though but I’m sure I quit about 10x in my head lol.

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    November 17, 2016 at 2:24 am

    Wow! You are one heck of a woman. I don’t have children but you’ve got my wheels turning – more research is needed. Thanks for sharing. And, by the way, you have beautiful babies.

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      November 18, 2016 at 12:18 am

      If you have netflix, look for the documentary called “The Business of Being Born”. Very eye opening!

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    November 18, 2016 at 11:48 am

    I’m nowhere near having a kid yet but I have always stated since I was a teenager that I wanted a water birth (blame the TLC show, A Baby Story). I already do NOT like hospitals, typically throw up when I’m in them due to the scents, and just know that is not where I want to be. Congratulations on your beautiful children and the fact that you got to have the experience you deserve.

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      November 18, 2016 at 2:27 pm

      I used to love watching that show! Yes, I agree with you on hospitals. The birth center is a completely different experience.

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    T. Espinoza
    November 22, 2016 at 10:41 am

    OMG She’s just precious! I tell expectant mothers all the time to expect the unexpected. Things may not always go as we plan but in the end, we have a squishy, adorable, tiny human 🙂

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      November 22, 2016 at 11:30 pm

      Yes I definitely agree. The end result is definitely worth everything we have to go through!

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