Mommyhood

What I’ve Learned as a Mom of Two

How it’s been as a mom of two. A two-year old and newborn. Five of the biggest things I’ve learned in month one as a mom of two.

To encourage myself and other young moms out there I’ve decided to write what I’ve learned in my first six months as a mom of two. I don’t claim to be an expert at motherhood.  Honestly, I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing most of the time, but I’m learning day by day to be more confident as a wife and mother.  So what have I learned in the past few months?

Lessons As a Mom of Two

1. Sleep when you can.

I don’t think I’ve slept through the night in the past two years.  Make that now, two years and six months.  I know you’re thinking I should sleep when the baby (or I guess I should now say babies) sleep, but this has to be one of the most difficult things for me to do.  Add a two year old to the mix and sleeping becomes downright impossible.  In this first month I had taken so many impromptu naps it’s not even funny.  But I have learned that in order to be the best for my children I have to be well rested.  I can’t feel bad for doing what I need to do in order to function.

2. Be confident in your decisions.

I’ve always struggled with confidence.  The struggle creeps in daily now that I’m a mom.  It’s easy to doubt your own decisions when it comes to raising a child.  Family members tell you to do things this way or that way but I’m learning to smile politely, say ok, and go back to how I want to do things.  Here’s the thing: God created me to be TJ and Ella’s mom.  He wouldn’t have done so if He didn’t think I could do it.  What does that tell me? Be confident in the way I’m raising my children.  I can only do what I believe is right, and I can’t let the opinions of others influence me in a negative way.

3. Tantrums will happen whether you like it or not.

TJ is exactly 2 years and 1 week older than Ella.  Yes, their birthdays are only 1 week apart.  TJ has done a lot better with handling being a big brother than I could have ever imagined, however, tantrums have become a part of our daily routine.  If I nurse the baby, he cries.  Tell him no, he cries.  If I walk to another room, he cries.  You get the idea.  When I think about it from his perspective though, I honestly can’t blame the kid.  In a matter of a few hours, his entire world changed.  We went from a family of 3 to a family of 4. He went from an only child who was able to enjoy mommy’s undivided attention all day long, to a big brother who has to share mommy with this tiny person who eats, sleeps, cries, and poops.  I’m learning through this though that just because my child has a tantrum or two (or three), doesn’t mean I’m a bad mom.  He’s learning, just like I am, how to cope with the changes in our family dynamic and it is okay.

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4. Don’t Be Afraid To Leave the House

Easier said than done. By the time I get everyone dressed, fed, bags packed and loaded into the car 3 hours have passed or so it feels.  Getting a two year old to cooperate with you is hard enough, add a newborn to the mix and…you get the idea.  But for my sanity, getting out of the house has been a must.  My mother is of the mindset that a women who has had a baby needs to stay in the house for 6+ weeks to avoid the dreaded confinement cold.  While I’m not saying to go crazy and take a vacation across the world, a walk outside or trip to the grocery store is okay sometimes.  Staying inside and not trying to return to somewhat of a normal routine is a recipe for depression.  My babies need a healthy mom to take care of them and getting out of the house has helped me maintain my sanity for them.

5. Pray.

As a new mom of two it seems like I can’t go an hour without saying “Lord, help me.”  God knows all about our struggles.  When I’m doubting myself as a mom, I find comfort in knowing that my children are a gift from God and I was chosen out of all others for them.  Wow!

This is my command – be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. 

Joshua 1:9 (NLT)

What have you learned as a parent? I’d love to hear in the comments below and if you are a mom of two, share those lessons too.

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6 Comments

  • Reply
    Sandra Wilkins
    October 10, 2016 at 11:00 pm

    This is awesome, Kimi. I’m definitely coming to you for advice when we decide to start having kids. Love this!

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      kdnsessions
      October 11, 2016 at 2:02 am

      Thank you so much! It’s scary putting myself out there but I’m willing to take the risk.

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    MJ
    October 11, 2016 at 1:37 pm

    Awwww. I’m so proud of you little sister. You’re an amazing mom and sharing your experiences will definitely help someone. Kiss the babies for me 😘

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      kdnsessions
      October 12, 2016 at 3:21 am

      Thanks big sister! I definitely have you to thank for encouraging me to do this!

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    D.McCoy
    October 12, 2016 at 9:32 am

    This is awesome! I can definitely relate and I’m looking forward to reading more blogs from you. Its always good to have a great support system of moms. That has helped me in these past two months being a new mom. Keep it up

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      kdnsessions
      October 12, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Thank you! It’s great knowing there are other moms going through the struggle. Having a support system is crucial!

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